Advice and help I am working on and I encourage everyone to take note and try to begin to live by.
1. It is impossible for anyone else to define you, you're the only one who gets to say who you are.
2. You were born with everything you need, you're not missing anything.
3. Perfection is a man-made illusion, we're all beautifully imperfect.
4. You are NOT your thoughts, you are the calm awareness behind the noise in your mind.
5. Your beliefs can be modified to lift you up, you are fully in control of you happiness.
6. The past and future don't exist anywhere except in your mind. Now is the only real moment.
7. Your calling in life is to fully express who you already are unapologetically shine your light.
8. Challenges are gifts for your growth and can unlock your full potential.
9. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself, to be free.
10. Surrender is the getaway into sustainable inner peace. LET GO.
I think these rules are a great little reminder to refer back to when we are having a 'tougher' day, maybe you are feeling a little low or simply doubting yourself.
We are all faced through the media everyday how we should look a certain way, act a certain way, be doing certain things and it is wrong. We can't all be clones of one another. Following yesterday's post about accepting our own flaws and strengths, we have to apply this logic here too.
We can't all have the same passions, talents, looks and personalities. We therefore need to stop comparing ourselves.
It is so much easier said than done, but like I have said I am really trying to work hard on this & through creating blog posts on these subjects I feel I can encourage you, help you but also it pushes me more than ever to work harder towards breaking these awful soul-destroying habits I have picked up through my years of constant judgement, self-punishment, criticism and comparisons. That are really now just becoming recognised in my brain as such. Until now I have always felt that I have 'got what I deserve' when I have been critical or punished myself due to a situation.
It's not right - I have to sit back and think 'why do I deserve to feel bad, be punished, be judged?' Because by giving my mind the time to debunk the issue rather than jumping to negative conclusions, I am hoping I can remind myself of the above and show myself I am worthy of happiness and acceptance.
Let me know if any of you suffer badly with self-punishment! Maybe you use some of the pointers above regularly to help yourself?
Have you managed to break these awful habits and now what habits do you live by?
Reach out and let me know!
TREAT YOURSELF WITH KINDNESS
Love and peace all, xoxo.
Feeling sluggish and rubbish when you have woken up? Get boosting up on bananas the more the better - they will help settle your stomach, boosting digestion, they are a mood enhancer, they will give you the energy you need and keep you full. Buy my book for banana receipe ideas.
Wake up every morning and ATLEAST have one glass of lemon water before doing anything else! Ideally try to drink a litre of water. The lemon wakes up your digestive system ready for the day and has great cleansing properties.
Check your dairy and meat intake - dairy can sit in your system for up to seven days unable to digest properly. Meaning other foods also get neglected and nurtients aren't absorbed properly and you feel extremely bloated. Go and smell your food bin, your stomach will be in that state. Rotting foods in your belly - hmm nice.
DO NOT FEAR CARBS - THEY ARE NOT THE ENEMY! CARB UP!!
Bananas, Rice, Potatoes, Leafy Greens, Corn, Beans, Lentils etc PACK THEM IN GO MAD.
NEVER COUNT CALORIES - NEVER RESTRICT!! These restriction 'starvation' diets who tell you to only eat 500 calories a day then have a treat day - where you binge out and eat WAY too much, is simply messing up your metabolism and on your binge days yours body stores all the fat meaning you gain weight because it knows it is going to go back into starvation mode and needs to hold onto every little thing it can. HELLO WEIGHT GAIN.
Life is too short not to live it to the full, making yourself happy.