A funeral is never a nice way the end a rather difficult week in many ways.
It’s a perfect opportunity to use it as a grounding tool. A time not only to celebrate a loved person but also a time to re-engage with gratitude and understand that life is a gift that we have a choice to use wisely or abuse of the opportunity.
Seeing the large turn out and how much of an impression Nora had left on the community was inspiring.
Her life was snapped from her, earlier than she deserved but she definitely was respected and will always be remembered which is worth far more than just a few years extra of living if it would be living with no purpose.
When suffering on our bad days we feel as if we don’t have purpose. Instead of feeling this way we have to try and create a purpose. Every minute counts.
Only a few years back I believed that living the longest made you the best, made you the role model. I was even voted by my year group that I’d be the one out of all of them to live to 100. It’s true what they teach you in school ‘quality not quantity’ and it’s the impact made not always winning the race. On leaving school and with help from my travelling and my illness believe it or not. I began to become passionate about people. I began researching the people who people we remembered, were in the history books. Many of their lives were cut short or they were shot down in their prime. It was a tragedy and upsetting that the world lost them so early. Yet, the footprints they had made were so deep that even the strongest tides couldn’t wash them away. They even today affect the way we live our lives and think of the world.
JFK: he fresh, young, charismatic take on his presidency, changed the course of history and what people wanted from a President.
Monroe: her vulnerability and tragedies helped people realise that beauty and fame doesn’t protect you for illnesses such as depression and neither does it give you happiness. She was open about the unhappiness that filled her life. Her beauty today still amazes us.
Churchill: that even when he was suffering his darkest moments of depression he was giving speeches to his army about being the strongest and winning. Showing that people are great a putting on a mask.
Martin Luther King: we have a voice! People will always try to silence us but we just have to speak louder.
Bobby Kennedy: fearing fears are important and the only way to reach success. That the cost of playing with fire may not benefit you but it can help others.
Last week we held a party for my Dad and brother. We had a room filled with a wide range of people from business, family, childhood friends, life long friends and so on.
Many aren’t lucky as we are.
They don’t have family, they don’t have life long friends.
We make many choices in life.
Some pay off and some back fire.
People are overwhelmed and often pick the route that seems to be the road that leads to the pot of gold. Their blinkers on, nothing else in their sights but the gold.
Others want to feel, experience and appreciate the whole path. The good and the bad. Their loved ones, the experience and lessons being far more important. People forget that happiness isn’t a destination, it’s a journey and the journey is an on-going one. There is no short cut.
The people who skip and take the fast track ticket realise often when it’s too late that they don’t have the people around them that are the extra spice to our stews. The ones who add the sparkle to the stars in our skies.
What we really live for.
At 16 I looked at life as a race like I saw everything because of my swimming background. I am lucky now that still at quite a young age with the help of tragedies, research, experience and travel that I have realised that winning gold is amazing but the buzz is short lived and the empty feeling after the buzz goes is a killer. Working hard and treasuring all that life has to offer, experiences, family, friends, moments and so forth keeps the soul’s fire keep burning bright and you become far richer in love, experience and so complete life far more than a winner. You become a hero. A warrior that didn’t just win, you won in many ways. Ways that was more than just a one off race.
I am lucky to have experienced both ways of living and both frame of minds.
So I could learn my lesson.
With chronic illness we are trapped in a bubble of feeling left behind, letting people down and living half a life.
It doesn’t have to be the case. We may not work the average office job, we may not be travelling the world but we can still shape and make a difference.
That’s the purpose.
You don’t have to conquer the whole world ( although it would be my dream ).
Simply making someone laugh.
Giving them a hug.
Going out for lunch.
You have added something and touched someone. It’s purpose to life. No matter how great or small. It’s worth gold. You are worth gold.
Losing someone is always so terribly difficult no matter what the circumstance.
Rather than having a negative, often angry mindset many have during these times we must use the darkest hours to light candles to guide us down the forthcoming path. To be grateful for the life we still lead and the people we share it with and re-assess our frame of mind on life. What’s important and what isn’t.
Make our life valued, be respected and become an inspiration for others.
In our own way.
Make an alliance with courage.
Feeling sluggish and rubbish when you have woken up? Get boosting up on bananas the more the better - they will help settle your stomach, boosting digestion, they are a mood enhancer, they will give you the energy you need and keep you full. Buy my book for banana receipe ideas.
Wake up every morning and ATLEAST have one glass of lemon water before doing anything else! Ideally try to drink a litre of water. The lemon wakes up your digestive system ready for the day and has great cleansing properties.
Check your dairy and meat intake - dairy can sit in your system for up to seven days unable to digest properly. Meaning other foods also get neglected and nurtients aren't absorbed properly and you feel extremely bloated. Go and smell your food bin, your stomach will be in that state. Rotting foods in your belly - hmm nice.
DO NOT FEAR CARBS - THEY ARE NOT THE ENEMY! CARB UP!!
Bananas, Rice, Potatoes, Leafy Greens, Corn, Beans, Lentils etc PACK THEM IN GO MAD.
NEVER COUNT CALORIES - NEVER RESTRICT!! These restriction 'starvation' diets who tell you to only eat 500 calories a day then have a treat day - where you binge out and eat WAY too much, is simply messing up your metabolism and on your binge days yours body stores all the fat meaning you gain weight because it knows it is going to go back into starvation mode and needs to hold onto every little thing it can. HELLO WEIGHT GAIN.
Life is too short not to live it to the full, making yourself happy.