Moments are made every second and every second our lives are tainted by pain and symptoms.
There are a few options for us.
To sit, the wait or to act anyway.
Different circumstances need different actions. We all want to act to feel as if we are living our lives to the maximum. The sadness it all brings is indescribable when we know deep down, we can’t take action, we have to sit or wait.
Many experience self-blame or get called out by others. They will often tell us to push it, we will be fine or ask why we can’t.
They will make judgements which will lead to a heavy burden of guilt which does nothing for our overall wellbeing.
I have days, days when I want to do everything and simply can’t I get annoyed and often fight. The fight causing more damage emotionally and physically.
Believing we should, must, can and so on.
Now... belief in ourselves is important in so many ways but sometimes we have to notice the red flags and alarm calls to understand that we may be pinching way to high above our weight.
I have learnt through experiences in all the options that now over-thinking is what is the wrong action to take.
Some would openly arguing that siting and waiting are the WRONG options. In many ways they are, but there ( like anything ) are a few expectations to the rules.
Remember we write our own rules and this is a grey area. We have to make the choice for OURSEVLES which box we lean towards, black or white.
We must take ownership of our choices, accepting the blame as well as the consequences.
This is always a tough one for many of us. We live in our world where we play the BLAME GAME,again and again. So much that now it is just a given that the moment something goes wrong we raise our hand and point the finger.
Over time I have learnt that we can't judge anyone's decisions or choices. They made them for themselves. They must receive credit where credit is due but also blame must be accepted too.
We are heavily influenced by our surroundings and bombarded with a 'right or wrong' frame of mind. These rules are often ones we try but can't follow. Accepting that we can't follow the rules often leaves us questioning our worth, our purpose and we lose our belief in ourselves. I am guilty, of doing things to please people. Examples, such as pushing through the pain, doing more than I should, standing instead of siting so I don't look lazy. The list is never ending. I have always put others before myself and I am proud of that trait and would never want to lose it.
At the same time, like anything it is finding a happy medium. This, like many of us is something I struggle a lot with this.
I am an all or nothing kind of girl. I have through the work I have done and continue to do realised these important facts that for so long I have side-lined. I have always taken the blame where I have been wrong, but I have always been indecisive. Always so fearful of failure, judgement, rejection and loss. I feel so much pain, with my health, work life and personal life that I have always felt like I can't afford to take on anymore pain. I have realised I have battled through a lot and also survived a lot and in turn this has given me the confidence to face things head on.
I now, have begun trying to do things for me, stand up for myself and face my fears.
You know what, this frame of mind is helping me blossom into a lot stronger and better person.
After-all we only get one life.
I am no life preacher.
I make a hell of a lot of mistakes, but I work hard and I give my heart to everyone because I do strongly believe that love is the best medicine .
We can sit and wait for that miracle or we can chase our dreams and open our eyes to the possibilities that the world can offer us. Either way we will face consequences - so it's important to know we will always deal with them and et through anything.
For now we have to do what makes our heart happy, what is best for our souls and if we do, regardless of the consequences our lives will be enlightened in so many ways.
Being a writer maybe has taught me to shake off the judgements because like actions, whatever you write will get a response.
Just stay true to you and create the memories, your story that in years to come you will look back on and think, gosh!
We all need sit back days to look after our health and something knowing when to take these days are important, we can use them in a productive manner by calling a friend from bed, seeing a family member for a cup of tea or knitting that scarf you are yet to finish.
Moments are all special and are all so precious.
We know this now, all so well.
We must stay calm, instead of angry on our off days, offer love when we hope to receive it back and above all - live the life WE want.
Every moment counts.
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Wake up every morning and ATLEAST have one glass of lemon water before doing anything else! Ideally try to drink a litre of water. The lemon wakes up your digestive system ready for the day and has great cleansing properties.
Check your dairy and meat intake - dairy can sit in your system for up to seven days unable to digest properly. Meaning other foods also get neglected and nurtients aren't absorbed properly and you feel extremely bloated. Go and smell your food bin, your stomach will be in that state. Rotting foods in your belly - hmm nice.
DO NOT FEAR CARBS - THEY ARE NOT THE ENEMY! CARB UP!!
Bananas, Rice, Potatoes, Leafy Greens, Corn, Beans, Lentils etc PACK THEM IN GO MAD.
NEVER COUNT CALORIES - NEVER RESTRICT!! These restriction 'starvation' diets who tell you to only eat 500 calories a day then have a treat day - where you binge out and eat WAY too much, is simply messing up your metabolism and on your binge days yours body stores all the fat meaning you gain weight because it knows it is going to go back into starvation mode and needs to hold onto every little thing it can. HELLO WEIGHT GAIN.
Life is too short not to live it to the full, making yourself happy.